A soft answer turns away wrath.

Communication is very much essential in maintaining a harmonious relation, it cultivates a lasting bond that binds. But often the situation change and differ, that we can't control ourselves in uttering harsh words to our fellow in a conversation, if we want to identify and insist we use high pitch of voice to command and force them to follow. Then the nice relation would be affected, and will be failing to continue.

The books of Proverbs has something to say about words and answering to our fellow, which will be effective if we consider and do it nicely, it took some effort for one to be intelligent enough to handle his own words and temper in a conversation, it says in Proverbs 15:1, that, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh words stirs up anger."
Our words are the outlet of human emotions, but let us be careful in bringing out our words especially if we feel something against the person whom we're talking. God is always good to us, He shows means for us to be in proper way in not proper situation.

Phlegmatic: Temperament and Personality

Flip Phlegmatic gets his name from what Hippocrates thought was the body fluid that produced a calm, cool, slow, easygoing, well-balanced temperament. Life for Flip is a happy, unexcited, pleasant experience in which he avoids as much involvement as possible.
Calm easygoing Flip Phlegmatic never seems to get ruffled, no matter what the circumstances. He has a very high boiling point and seldom explodes in anger or laughter but keeps his emotion under control. This is the one temperament type that is consistent every time you see this person. You see, Flip Phlegmatic is usually kindhearted and sympathetic but seldom conveys his true feelings. He feels much more emotion than appears on the surface and has a good capacity to appreciate the fine arts and the "finer things" of life.

Possessions..

Sometimes we think possessions are essential. Big homes, lots of money. Other people, Goals, big important goals are essential. We spend our lives insuring ourselves against impending doom, where is sure is just outside the door. And by doing all of this, we cease to live in the moment. If there is something a lover is, it's a person who realizes that the only reality is the "now." Yesterday is gone, and there's nothing you can do about it. It's good, because it brought you to where you are right now. And in spite of what people have told you, this is a good place to be! But there's nothing you can do about yesterday, it isn't real anymore. And tomorrow? Tomorrow is a wonderful thing to dream about. It's marvelous to dream about tomorrow, but it isn't real. And if you spend your time dreaming about yesterday and tomorrow, you've got to miss what's happening to you and the right now. And that's the real reality, to be in touch.

The Melancholic Temperament and Personality

   Melancholy is often referred to as the “black” or “dark” temperament. Actually he is the richest of all the temperament, for he is an analytical, self-sacrificing, gifted, perfectionist type, with a very sensitive emotional nature. No one gets more enjoyment from the fine arts than the Melancholy.

   By nature Melancholy is prone to be introvert, but since his feelings predominate, he is given over to a variety of moods. Sometimes his moods will lift him to heights of ecstasy that cause him act more extroverts. However, at other times he will be gloomy and depressed; during these periods he is withdrawn and can quite antagonistic,

   Melancholy is a very faithful friend, but, unlike the Sanguine, he does not make friend

Asking for Forgiveness..

Satan was complaining to the Lord, “You’re unfair, So many sinners do wrong and you take them back. In fact, some come back half a dozen times and you always welcome them. I make one big mistake and you condemn me forever; it is not fair.”

Said the Lord, “Did you ever ask for forgiveness or repent?”

Introducing Choleric Temperament and Personality

   Choleric is the hot, quick, active, practical, and strong-willed temperament. He is often self-sufficient and very independent. He tends to be decisive and opinionated, finding it easy to make decisions for himself as well as for others.

   Choleric thrives on activity. In fact to him, “life is activity.” He does not need to be stimulated by his environment. No, he stimulates the environment with his endless ideas, plans, and ambitions. His is not an aimless activity, for he has a practical, keen mind, capable of making sound, instant decisions or planning worthwhile, long-range projects. He does not vacillate under pressure of what others think. He takes a definite stand on issues and can often be found crusading against social injustice or unhealthy situations.

Sanguine:an Extrovert Personality and Temperament

Sparky Sanguine is the warm, buoyant, lively, and fun loving temperament. He is receptive by nature, and external impressions easily find their way to his heart, where they readily cause outburst of response. Feelings rather than reflective thoughts predominate to form his decisions.

Sparky Sanguine has an unusual capacity to enjoy himself and usually passes on his hearty outgoing nature. When he comes into a room of people, he has a tendency to lift the spirits of everyone

Attributes of Person: Character, Personality, and Temperament

“Why is it that I can’t control myself? I know what’s right and wrong. I just don’t seem to be able to do what’s right!” This frustrated plea came from a fine businessman who had come for counselling. It wasn’t the first time I had heard that plaint in one form or another; in fact, it is a very common experience.

At the moment of conception we all inherited a basic genetic temperament that contains both our strength and weaknesses. This temperament is called several things in the Bible: “Natural man,” “the flesh,” “the old man,” and “corruptible flesh,” to name a few. It is the basic impulse of our being that seek to satisfy our wants. To properly understand the temperament’s control of our actions and reactions, we should define three terms and carefully distinguish them: temperament, character, and personality.

Temperament

Temperament is the combination of inborn traits that subconsciously affects all our behaviour. These traits, which are passed on by our genes, are based on hereditary factors and arranged at the time of conception. Six people contribute through the gene pool to makeup of every baby: two parents and four grandparents. Some authorities suggest that we get more genes from our grandparents than our parents. The alignment of temperament traits, though unseen, is just as predictable as the color of eyes, hair, or size of body.

It is a person’s temperament that makes that person outgoing and extrovertish or shy and introvertish. Doubtless you know kinds of people who are siblings-born to the same parents. Similarly, it is temperament that make some people art or music enthusiast, while others are sports or industry minded.

Character

Character is the real you. The Bible refers to it as “the hidden person of the heart” (I Peter 3:4). It is the result of your natural temperament modified by childhood training, education, and basic attitudes, beliefs, principles, and motivations. It sometimes referred to as “the soul” of a person, which is made up of the mind, emotions, and will.

Character combines your temperament, training, moral values, beliefs, and habit patterns. It is the net result of all the influences and religious commitment on your life.

Personality

Personality is the outward expression of oneself, which may or may not be the same as a person’s character, depending on how genuine that person is.

Often personality is a pleasing façade for an unpleasant or weak character. Many are acting a part today on the basis of what they think they should be as a person, rather what they really are. This is a formula for mental and spiritual chaos. It is caused by following the human formula for acceptable conduct. The Bible tells us, “Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart”(1 Sam. 16:7)

Work with Faith

             A wealthy businessman in a mid-western town had signs printed and placed all over the town. They stated that if any man in the town, who owed debts, would come to his office on a certain day between nine and twelve in the morning, he would pay the debts.

            Naturally, that promise was the talk of the town. Very few believed it. They thought there was a catch somewhere.

            The day came; the businessman sat in his office at nine. By ten, no one had come. At eleven a man was seen walking up and down outside, glancing occasionally at the office door.                 Finally, he opened it, put his head in, and asked, “Is it true that you will pay any man’s debt?”

            “That’s right,” the rich man replied. “Are you in debt?”

            “I certainly am,” the caller answered.

            “Do you have along the bills or statements to prove it?”

            The visitor produced the documents and the businessman wrote out a cheque covering all of them. Before twelve o’clock two other men came, and also had their debts paid.

            People outside could not believe it…. But there was no time left for them to have their bills paid.

            If people don’t believe the goodness of man; how can they believe in the goodness of God?

-Tonne

What for Immortality

        God never made a fish with fins until He made an ocean for it to swim in. God never made a bird until He made an atmosphere for it to fly in. And God never put the longing for immortality in a soul until He made a heaven to satisfy these longings.

Materialism

  An old rabbinic tale records the concern of a man of God for a young friend who was becoming worldly and materialistic.

  The rabbi invited him for his study and led him to the window.

  “What do you see?” he asked.

  There was playground next to the house. “I see children playing.”

  Then the rabbi took a little hand mirror out of his pocket and held it before the visitor’s face. “Tell me what you see now?”

  “I see myself,” he said, wondering what was going on.

  “Isn’t strange,” the rabbi asked, “that when a little silver gets between yourself and others, you see only yourself?”

John W. Rilling

Sins

     A clergyman had preached on the subject of Jacob’s ladder, and his son was much impressed. A few days later he told his father that he had dreamed about the discourse.

     “And what did you see my son?”

     “I dreamt,” replied the boy, “that I saw a ladder reaching up into the clouds. At the foot of the ladder were many pieces of chalk, and no one was allowed to ascend without taking a piece for the purpose of placing a mark on each rung for each sin committed.”

    “Very interesting, my boy, and what else?”

    “Well, dad. I thought I would go up, but I hadn’t got very far when I heard someone coming down.”

    “Yes,” said the father, “and who was that?”

    “You, dad,” replied the boy.

    “I? Whatever was I coming down for?”

    “More chalk.”

THE FOUNTAIN OF YOUTH

   In the Middle Ages there was a legend that somewhere in the New World was a “Fountain of Youth.” If old men drank from it, it made them young again.

   No one has ever found a fountain with such miraculous waters. But roundabout us is a “Fountain of Youth” which few recognize. The real Fountain of Youth is a useful work.

   Some people who retire prematurely age faster in their idleness than they ever did in full-time employment. Nothing is more boring and tiresome than not having work to do when one is still young enough to need its stimulation.

   Too many people associate purposeful work with profitable work. They cannot interest themselves in any kind of occupation unless someone is willing to

WHY HEAVEN IS SO FAR AWAY

This story comes from Ghana in Africa. It says that way back in the beginning, heaven was so near to earth that a housewife who was crushing her sweet potatoes into a pulp by hammering them with end of a long pole, kept poking the pole into the bottom of heaven.
God, who lived up there, was not happy with the disturbance. So he complained to the good lady. But she paid no attention at all and kept right on mashing her sweet potatoes and prodding into the bottom of heaven.

So the Lord got angry and shouted down her, “Because you humans don’t appreciate my nearness, I’m going to rise so high in the sky that none of you will ever be able to reach me.”
That is the African explanation of why we spend our lives trying to get to heaven and it always seems to be so far away.
Come to think of it, though, maybe we’re looking in the wrong places. According to the scriptures, the kingdom of heaven is within us. What a perfect place to hide it: very few people look inside.